This past month I was privileged with the opportunity to interview two wonderful, Christian girls who you may know as Sal and Me. They are ‘two best friends who live 2,000 miles apart’ who write a modesty blog known as “Modest is Hottest”. They have happily agreed to do an interview with us and I am honored to share their wonderful story and testimony with you lovely ladies! Let us begin!
1) What does modesty mean to you?
~ Me “To me, modesty means dressing and acting in a way that deserves respect. When you do that, people respect you for who you are. When you dress inappropriately people don’t respect you because the way you dress shows that you’re not looking for respect.”
~ Sal “Modesty means not only covering your body appropriately, but also your attitude. There are girls who dress modestly, yet do not have an attitude and heart that is sending the same message. This contradicts your way of dressing. Modesty does not mean wearing long skirts and loose, home sewn shirts. You can have fun when you dress modestly, and people will notice that you are dressing nicely and yet you don't show skin! Some girls think it is impossible. It is a challenge. I love to make an immodest item of clothing modest, but let me warn you, it's not possible with everything!”
2) What do you think the secret to modesty is?
~Me “Living it! Don’t just say you want to dress modestly. Live it with all your heart and make it one of your biggest goals in life. Picture yourself as an example to others and dress how you want your little sister or daughter to see you. Don’t judge others just because they dress outside your opinion of where the line should be drawn. If you do that, people won’t respect your opinions.”
~Sal “Your attitude. Your heart. If you dress modestly because you know that its right but you don't really want to, people can see that and you can too. You can slip into a way of dressing that is not flaunting skin, but still immodest because of an attitude like that. Wanting to dress modestly is a key to success. Making it an everyday thing is a key to success also. Something that I like to think about is that I am a princess. I need to dress in a way that shows that. I am not flaunting skin to attract a guy. I am waiting because my Father, the King, has a prince for me. I dress modestly knowing that when I do, I am helping a guy save his eyes and mind for his princess someday.”
3) What are some verses that you have discovered that help you with your modesty? How have they helped you?
~Me Psalm 139:13-16 “For thou hast possessed my reins: thou hast covered me in my mother’s womb. I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made: marvelous are they works; and that my soul knoweth right well. My substance was not hid from thee, when I was made in secret, and curiously wrought in the lowest parts of the earth. Thine eyes did see my substance, yet being unperfect; and in thy book all my members were written, which in continuance were fashioned, when as yet there was none of them.” (KJV) This verse really helps when you need to know that someone cares. God loves us so very much that He planned it all way ahead of time. You are no mistake. He already has my days planned out ahead of time and I am of worth to Him. I don’t need to dress to get attention because I don’t need it. I already know He loves me. I already know that someone cares.”
~Sal “Matthew 6:30, Psalm 45:13, Proverbs 31, Jeremiah 1:4-10 Psalm 45:13 “The king’s daughter is all glorious within: her clothing is of wrought gold.” (KJV) I need to trust God to bring me the clothes that I need and desire, and when I do, He does. (Matthew 6:30) I am a princess and I need to dress and act like one. (Psalm 45:13)I need to be the woman God created me to be. (Proverbs 31- I (Haylie) highly suggest you read this chapter.) I need to show the world that there are youth who choose their way of dressing with wisdom, because many people out there think we are all thinking about drugs, money, guys, etc. We need to show them we are more than what they think. We are more than just youth. (Jeremiah 1:4-10)”
4) What is your definition of fashion?
~Me “Fashion isn’t about what all the celebrities are wearing even though that’s how people distort it. Fashion is about what YOU think totally rocks!”
~Sal “Fashion? What's that? Seriously, I don't care what is in style. If something is in style and I wear it, it's because I really like it. If I buy something that is “in" it is because I have liked it and it was never available but now that it's “in" it is available to me. I don't keep up on the latest trends. I think a lot of them are ridiculous. I have my own style, and there is no way I am going to dress like everyone else just because that's how everyone else is dressing. For me, fashion is not at all on my mind. I just don't think about it.”
5) What encouraged you to write this blog?
~Me “...I went through a long period during the ages 10 and 11 where I was a total tomboy who wouldn’t wear anything pink LOL! It was then that I realized how distorted everything was! I was hit by the shock of people dressing to get attention and I just wanted my voice heard among all the confusion. Sal is a perfect example to me of someone who lets her voice be heard. After I started the blog, I asked [Sal] to join forces with me... It has proved to be a total success and something very influential to my life in the past few years.”
6) How did you girls become friends?
~Me “Our families have both known each other since before we were born. We spent our first several years of life seeing each other on a regular basis. Our parents were traveling together a lot in ministry when we were toddlers.”
~Sal “We have known each other our whole lives. Literally. Me's family and my family knew each other before we were in the picture.”
7) Are you girls really best friends 2,000 miles apart?
~Me “Oh yeah! We both have been best friends ever since we were tiny little girls! Just because we live so far apart doesn’t mean we can’t be best friends. No matter how far apart we are, we will always be close. Sal and I are so much alike, yet so different. Our friendship is very special to both of us and means more to me than just about anything.”
8) What made you girls 2,000 miles apart?
~Sal “Once upon a time, which we can barely remember now because it was so long ago, we lived next to each other. Off and on through the years since then, we have lived in the same state, though still hundreds of miles apart, and not for very long. It's hard to arrange sleepovers at these kinds of distances. LOL!”
9) What is your favorite thing about fashion?
~Me “My favorite thing about fashion is that I can make it mean anything I want to me. Whatever I like is in style to me! I don’t have to follow anyone’s rules because I’m the boss of what I like!”
~Sal “My favorite thing about fashion is that I don't have to follow it. I don't need to memorize its do’s and dont’s, other than don't pair gold with silver or black with brown. (Some people can actually pull them off; just usually one of those people isn't me). I make up my own rules about what I am going to wear. I do love how, because of fashion, new things come onto store shelves and I get to have a variety of things in my wardrobe. I also love how, because of fashion, people get rid of clothes that are like new because they aren't "in" anymore and then I get to discover them!”
10) What are your favorite stores to shop in and why?
~Me “I like ‘Wal-Mart’ because you can get really low clearance prices on super cute stuff. I like ‘Claire’s’ because they have so many cute accessories, and ‘Deb’s’ because they have awesome stuff for low prices. ‘Maurice’s’ is great because they have cute jeans/shorts, and I like Ross because of their prices…the list goes on forever!”
~Sal “I like ‘Wal-Mart’ because of the low prices. I like ‘Christopher and Banks’ because of their skirts. ‘Kohl’s’ is great because of their shoes and great sales. Thrift Stores are fun because of the great, almost new, and sometimes new clothes to be found there for low prices. I also like any store that sells fabric so that I can make some of my own clothes!”
11) If you could tell girls ONE thing, what would it be?
~Me “I want everyone to realize they’re beautiful. I want people to know that they’re of worth. Don’t spend all your time worrying about what people think of you or wondering if anyone cares. Accept yourself for who you are and know that God does care and he loves you. He made you beautiful.”
~Sal “Girls, you are so beautiful, and you don't even know it. Stop looking at the mirror. Look to Jesus because He is the very reflection of His Father, and do you know how beautiful He is? He wants His beauty to reflect off of your face so others can see it. Don't try to flaunt skin to get a guy. God's got one for you and all you have to do is wait, pray, and trust God. Don't let peer pressure get you down, do what you know is right. Love God with your whole heart, soul, mind, and body.”